I know there aren't many who read this blog, but for those of you who do, I have a question.
Some friends & classmates and I were discussing the pros/cons of the "friends with benefits" thing. All individuals were/are currently unmarried, some divorced, some never married & one was widowed. The age range was 23 - 50+ years and was mostly women, only a few men & they were younger. I felt as though most of those involved were saying what they wanted other to hear, not their real thoughts/feelings/opinions. As I sat & listened to the discussion, there seemed to be no real truth coming out of anyone. I thought if I posed the question here in cyberspace, maybe I'd hear some real honesty. So, here's the question:
What do you think about "friends with benefits" and why?
7 years ago
3 comments:
Friends with benifits, are very rare to find. I had one years ago before I was married, he was hot, fun, and everything. We were both at a point where we didn't want a commitment. We were dates for xmas parties and such that required escorts. He then went to Australia to visit a friend for 5 weeks, but while he was away I got together with my then to be husband.
So...I think it can work, if you both agree. I dont think I could do it if I knew he was with others. Which he said he wasn't. I myself at that time wasn't sleeping with any other guys. All my other male friends were just platonic. Either way we parted friends, eventually he went his way and I mine.
I have a friend who is currently in this kind of relationship and it works great for him.
For me, I can't do it. I thought I could (before my husband) but I link sex to intimacy to love. It's part of my f*cked up dna or something..lol!!!
BUT, i don't see a problem with it. I thought then (and still do) that the idea of having a friend with benifits was better than having one night stands, or never having sex. At least you are with someone you trust, someone you know, and someone safe.
I don't know, 'cause many times on my country, the men are always looking for something like this but even if they are married, and well, many times here we see it like a dirty game of his part.
But being sincere this one new generation, by the inexperience perhaps sees it (the young people) like something very easy to bear.
greetings from Monterrey, México.
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